It was around 2 O'clock in the after noon, I was in the pantry and accidentally met a girl of our team. Since I was alone, she came and sat with me for giving company. Might be she didn't want to seat alone. The consumption time gets increased irrespective of the height of the cup, if we have a company and in an interesting discussion. We were having some casual discussion like how things were, undoubtedly few sentences of frustrations being a part of IT world.
Suddenly her mobile phone rang. She saw the number and disconnected. Our conversation continued, again her mobile rang, she disconnected. The consequences repeated many times, the mobile rang almost 9 times and she disconnected each time without even seeing the number. I didn't pay attention to her calls, why should have I? It was not my call after all. After a lapse of ten minutes our manager appeared in front of us.
"You guys seem very busy" he asked in a husky voice.
"Just a casual chat" I said.
"Casual chat needs disconnection of manager's call. Interesting!" he looked at the girl.
So it was the manager who called her, and she disconnected. I looked both the faces in quick succession. Why the manager called the girl so many times? Was he behind the girl?
"I want both of you on your seat right now" He walked away and we followed him.
Lots of questions were running in my mind. Being a romantic writer, I am always interested exploring new things about love. So I headed to her cubicle expecting a story of love between manager and an associate.
She laughed seeing me.
"You are very brave. Disconnected the call of manager" Now she was on the verge of falling down while laughing. I waited for the waves of laughter to subside.
"See this message" She gave her mobile. And the message read
"Hi Sweetie
How are you? I have called you many times, but you disconnected.
I can understand, you must be busy.
I know you don't eat properly, so called you to confirm whether
you had your lunch. Your health is important to me. You are Important.
Be happy.
Miss you
Sanjiv"
"Manager messages you in the name of 'Sanjiv'?" I asked her.
Again she laughed, pulled a chair for me and asked to sit.
Ananya: Sanjiv was my colleague at my first job.Today manager just called me once and rest of the calls were from him
I: But why did you disconnect the call then?
Again her mobile phone rang and she showed me the screen
"Sanjiv......Calling"
Ananya: Ufff! save me god!
She disconnected again.
I:Why is your expression like this?
Ananya: I have showed his message right. What did you understand?
I:How can I say anything? I don't know what is between you guys.
Ananya: Ok let me tell you from the beginning
I met Sanjiv at my first job, he was a good hearted fellow. So we became friends.
Some times tea, sometimes lunch and some times dinner. We got along well. After a year I got a call from this company and put down my paper. But it surprised me when I found tears in his eyes on my farewell treat. When I moved here, he started calling me frequently asking about my health, about my well being.
For few days I took them as a friendly concern later it irritated me, why he was concerning so much.He was neither my boy friend nor my husband? I always behaved with him how I used to be with others but don't understand when and how he grew up such feelings.
I: You should have told him these things straight.
Ananya: He has not told me anything straight, then why should I begin a consequence bringing such topics. If I say don’t bring love between us, he will start showing me how much he loves me. I am not ready to bear some crazy dialogues, cheesy lines from movies. He is showing his interest by such acts, and I am showing my disinterest by these acts. If he says one day, He loves me, then I would say I don't love him.
I remained silent, couldn't understand what should I tell.
Ananya: Can't he understand I am not interested? Why should he care, when I am not caring for him.
Why is he concerning? When I am not concerning about him.
I: Ananya, please eat lunch, other wise you may fall sick.
* We both laughed *
Revolving on the axis of my seat, lots of questions revolved in my brain. The questions about life, the questions about feelings and the questions about self respect.
Ananya's last sentence was stating she was expecting him to understand, when she is not bothered about him then he shouldn't bother about her.
Do we need to reciprocate feelings?
Do we need to love the person who loves us?
Shouldn't we walk on the path that ends at the person who will turn her face seeing us?
Are we aware, the person whom we are calling, might be letting a 'oh no!' seeing our name displayed on the mobile screen?
Do we understand we are loosing self respect, loving a person who doesn't love us?
But the vital question for boys is how should they fathom out. The tips from me might be of some help.
1.
Never flow with forwarded messages.
If you receive a message that says about feelings. Hold on.
You must be one of the recipients in the group that she has sent.
2.
Never call again if your call is disconnected. Wait for a call from her.
If she calls you back then she was busy and couldn't respond you at the time.
If she doesn't call you back, then she is not interested talking to you.
3.
If she cares for you, then make sure you are the only one whom she cares.
If a girl has caring nature, and cares for all who are close to her then you are no special.
Just one among many.
4.
During your conversation if the girl feels sleepy or tells you about getting incoming calls very often.
Then she tries to avoid you. Better not to disturb her, best to disconnect the emotional attachment.
5.
During your conversation if she answers to all your questions but never asks you a single question.
Then my friend you are in trouble. Though the girl doesn't want to talk to you, but she talks.
Not hurting you might be the factor or something else.
6.
If the girl doesn't remember your special days like B'days, anniversaries then possibilities are there she doesn't like you.
We remember special days of people who are special to us.
7.
If the girl doesn't respond to your caring attitudes, then no need to grow careness for her.Its the heart of women, they can bear the pain of hatred from the person whom they love,but they can't digest the love from the person whom they don't like.
" Be a boy or a girl, everyone on earth should remember self respect of boys are as much precious as the girl's chastity to them"
Note: The intention is not to disrespect girls, but to pass a message to the society. Like how a girl's smile makes the life of a boy, the smile's illusion takes his life away sometimes.
